Growth

The winter before I turned 15, my parents moved us all out to the country. That spring/summer, I begged to be able to plant a little flower garden. I think I had been reading The Secret Garden, or, at least, Mary’s request for “a bit of earth” was most likely echoing in my mind. I was given my “bit of earth,” and I planted roses and various other plants in it. However, I was not the world’s best plant keeper, and...

Waiting

Recently, my husband and I have been toying with a business venture idea, and this month, we decided to explore the possibility. However, today we received the news that we dreaded…wait. Have you ever experienced something similar? The high of all kinds of possibilities and then the low of waiting? It certainly isn’t any fun, but I have been reminded of some truths today that have helped ease the disappointment of being told to wait. First off, I will start...

From victim to victor

Hi! I’m back! Sometimes after addressing heavier topics, my soul needs time to step back and recharge. That, combined with the busyness of the holidays-plus getting the kids back into the groove of school-hopefully explains my absence. In recent months, we have gone through some things in our family that have caused a lot of old feelings and emotions to resurface. Things that I thought were buried, have come back full-force, and I have been doing a lot of thinking...

The Christian Woman and Emotional Abuse

What are you doing? Why were you hiding in the closet? Why were you calling your family? You shouldn’t talk to them anymore. They’re not worth your time, and you always feel bad after talking to them. They obviously don’t love you as much as I do. I thought you were done with them. You need to just cut them off already. Why are you talking to them when you could be spending time with me? I’m the one who...

The Christian woman and depression

Disclaimer: I’m not a medical professional, so if you have any medical concerns related to this topic, they should be directed to your healthcare provider.  Depression. This word, in my own humble opinion, carries with it a stigma in today’s Christian circles. While some are “coming around” and recognizing how this issue truly does affect the believer, this topic is left pretty well alone. The “pat” answer to the Christian struggling with depression is simple: you need to trust in...

On being the mom who steps in

Today on the local Christian radio station, there was a gal who gave a tear-filled account of how, after her 10-year-old child had recently come to know the Lord as Savior and how, at that moment, this sweet lady said that at that moment, she felt like she found her true calling as a stepmother. I think my husband must have seen me bristle at the word, “Stepmom.” It’s not a title that I call myself, nor is it the...

When you feel like you can’t go on

There have been a few (okay, a LOT) of times in the past three-ish years where I have just felt like I can’t go on in this motherhood journey. I love being a mom and all, but I will be the first to freely admit that I can get easily overwhelmed and swallowed up by the enormity of the task that lies before me. Anyone else out there that feels the same way? Anyone?  I’m guessing that the feeling of...

Overcoming Fear

In one of the Facebook groups that I am a part of, I will be going live tomorrow afternoon to discuss fear. Can I tell you that the thought of talking about fear just freaks me out? The irony is not lost on me. Fear. I’ve known about this for a little while, and as I jotted down some notes on fear, specifically fear that holds us down and keeps us from growing, I thought, hey! Why not write a...

The day I stopped being “Mom” and became Mom

When I was faced with the reality of marrying into a ready-made family, I had all sorts of ideas of what I would do as a mom. I would take my kids on individual dates, cook all the time with them, and never have any major problems that a nice little talk wouldn’t fix. I’m not saying that those things aren’t bad. I think carving out time for individual children is important, we sometimes cook together, and those nice little...

My kids and social media

This post is one that I have been turning over and over again in my mind. Quite possibly, this is one of the areas in “parenting” where I have the strongest viewpoint. Social media…and children. Maybe you will read this post and walk away saying, “that’s not how I plan to raise my kids,” and you know what? That’s completely ok. I’m not here to assign blame or tell you how to best raise your children. However, I do think...