Mommy, wait a minute

July 10, 2017

Disclaimer: I’m not a person who cries all the time. It usually takes a while for me to build up to a cry, and then it’s one of those nice ugly cries that lasts for forever and a day. 

Now that that’s out of the way…

I cried tonight.

Nothing horrible happened. Nothing made me upset or frustrated. I wasn’t hurt or in pain, nor was I elated over something fantastic happening.

No, nothing earth-shattering happened. My heart simply slowly broke into a thousand pieces, and it broke because of four simple words uttered by my 2 1/2 year old son.

“Mommy, wait a minute.”

Tears.

Now, this child of mine has been saying the phrase, “wait a minute” for everything. Usually it’s because he’s supposed to do something, and he’s trying to procrastinate obeying. But tonight, those words had an impact on me like nothing else.

“Mommy, wait a minute.”

You have to understand that my son is going through this phase where he doesn’t want to sleep in his bed. He would much rather sleep with my husband and me (probably some leftover ingrained something or other from co-sleeping with him when he was a baby). Part of it has to do with a recent growth spurt that is causing his legs and feet to ache. Part of it, I think, has to do with the fact that it seems like, some days, he is getting lost in the shuffle of our busy lives.

Tonight when he uttered the phrase that has caused me to grit my teeth in frustration, I gave into the plea. I waited a minute. And as I sat in the dark by his bed and waited, I couldn’t help but think of all of the times that I have ignored his “wait a minutes” and have sent him off to play with his siblings or have gotten frustrated with him and have inwardly complained at not being able to do something that I wanted to do because my toddler wanted me to “wait a minute.”

Don’t get me wrong, obedience is SO important, and it’s vital that he learns that he must obey. Manipulations and delays are not obedience, and we are working with him as best we can to teach him obedience to authority while he is young so that he will (hopefully) avoid a lot of the pitfalls of disobedience that seems to go hand in hand with the angsty teen years.

But, tonight, I waited a minute.

And you know what? I realized that I am not going to have a lot of minutes to wait with him. Time is flying by so fast. Too fast. His first year of life was difficult. Babies are hard! (If you’ve been blessed with an easy baby, I applaud you.) But he isn’t a baby anymore. He’s two, and I just know that I’m going to blink my eyes and he’ll be 18.  Maybe that’s a little extreme, but I am quickly coming to the realization that my time with him as a little person is fading fast. Tonight, as I sat by his bed, rubbing his freshly buzzed hair, I wondered how many minutes I would be able to sit by his bed as he drifted off to sleep. That chapter in my life is going to be coming to a close far sooner than I feel ready for at this moment.

So, mamas, if your child says, “wait a minute,” do it. Wait that minute. Sit by your toddler’s bedside. Wait a minute for your older child and start a conversation with them. Connect with your children. All too soon, they will be out of the house and starting families of their own.

“Mommy, wait a minute.”

I can promise you this. You won’t regret it.

Love, Sarah

P.S. All of my professional photos that have been featured in these more recent blogs are the work of my good friend, Sarah Engle at Wunderkind Gallery. Check her out on Facebook because she is simply amazing at what she does!

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About Us A few months ago, my sister and I decided to band together and start a blog with the hopes of sharing our experiences in motherhood. My sister is also a registered RN, and she will be sharing some of her knowledge in the medical field-specifically as it relates to medical issues surrounding pregnancy and new motherhood/babyhood. We hope that this blog will encourage our readers, and we also hope that you will reach out to us if you have any ways we can help or if you have any topics that you would like us to discuss. Happy reading!